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No matter where a child misbehaves, it is acceptable to talk to them, and ask them to behave. At times, the problem might only be one where a child wants to get something that you do not want them to get. Explain why, in a calm and loving voice. At other times, and to avoid being the weak parent with the child who is obnoxious in public places, or the overbearing parent who snaps and spanks a child in the aisle of a grocery store, you need to form a plan. Define your discipline strategy, in writing, in a time of calm. Don’t make it up in response to a problem, or you’re likely to overreact. Even if you throw the paper away when done (do not do so), write it down anyway. Written words force you to make very clear decisions. Include an escalation strategy, so that if the first disciplinary action fails, you have a back up plan. Recognize when a discipline situation is necessary. At that exact moment be sure to apply your strategy, without giving it a second thought or consideration. Any strategy is most effective when applied confidently and consistently, so your child knows exactly when they are overstepping the bounds you set. If immediate disciplinary action is not possible at that particular moment, then wait until you get home. This must be understood by both you and the child as the highest priority to be effective. Give a warning to the child the consequences of their actions. (For example, if you disobey me, your getting a time out.”)